Comments on: We’re Glad You’re Not, But We’re Still Here! http://infertilityisthenewblack.com/we%e2%80%99re-glad-you%e2%80%99re-not-but-we%e2%80%99re-still-here/#utm_source=feed&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=feed Emotional Feelings and Sensitivity Training Fri, 02 Mar 2012 17:41:03 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Bionic Baby Mamas http://infertilityisthenewblack.com/we%e2%80%99re-glad-you%e2%80%99re-not-but-we%e2%80%99re-still-here/comment-page-1/#comment-146 Bionic Baby Mamas Tue, 26 Jan 2010 22:31:38 +0000 http://infertilityisthenewblack.com/?p=156#comment-146 Here from ICLW...and while I have sympathy with this post, I sometimes really really really need to see that people do leave the Land of IF, you know? Sometimes I am in The Bad Place and don't want to see kids, but more often, I need the reminder that people with difficult stories DO end up parenting. Sub-divided blogrolls do seem like a good idea, though. I'm always meaning to sort mine out one of these days.... Here from ICLW…and while I have sympathy with this post, I sometimes really really really need to see that people do leave the Land of IF, you know? Sometimes I am in The Bad Place and don’t want to see kids, but more often, I need the reminder that people with difficult stories DO end up parenting.

Sub-divided blogrolls do seem like a good idea, though. I’m always meaning to sort mine out one of these days….

]]> By: Paper Pregnancy http://infertilityisthenewblack.com/we%e2%80%99re-glad-you%e2%80%99re-not-but-we%e2%80%99re-still-here/comment-page-1/#comment-117 Paper Pregnancy Mon, 28 Dec 2009 04:37:30 +0000 http://infertilityisthenewblack.com/?p=156#comment-117 I often find myself glazing over while listening to women recount their 'battles' with infertility, usually while they wrangle their multiple children, and their lil' war lasted all of about two Clomid cycles. No, we are not sisters in the struggle. And may I just say how cathartic the tone of this blog is? I hope it's okay for someone who has gone the adoption route to chime in. My frontal lobe is intact. I often find myself glazing over while listening to women recount their ‘battles’ with infertility, usually while they wrangle their multiple children, and their lil’ war lasted all of about two Clomid cycles.

No, we are not sisters in the struggle.

And may I just say how cathartic the tone of this blog is? I hope it’s okay for someone who has gone the adoption route to chime in. My frontal lobe is intact.

]]> By: Lin http://infertilityisthenewblack.com/we%e2%80%99re-glad-you%e2%80%99re-not-but-we%e2%80%99re-still-here/comment-page-1/#comment-101 Lin Sat, 12 Dec 2009 03:46:21 +0000 http://infertilityisthenewblack.com/?p=156#comment-101 Couldn't have said it any better than this: "...that when people have babies, they sort of lose their frontal lobes." As an infertile dealing with a BFF who's set to be induced on Monday, I can completely relate to that statement. It's so bizarre! On the IF blog to parenting blog topic, I'd be fine if they just e-mailed Mel to have them move their blog to the Parenting room...or even just add (Parenting) or (Pregnant) next to the blog if they want to stay in the same room. Mel does that for a lot of them, but I assume she only doesn't if people let her know. I just don't like the surprise part! Couldn’t have said it any better than this:
“…that when people have babies, they sort of lose their frontal lobes.” As an infertile dealing with a BFF who’s set to be induced on Monday, I can completely relate to that statement. It’s so bizarre!

On the IF blog to parenting blog topic, I’d be fine if they just e-mailed Mel to have them move their blog to the Parenting room…or even just add (Parenting) or (Pregnant) next to the blog if they want to stay in the same room. Mel does that for a lot of them, but I assume she only doesn’t if people let her know. I just don’t like the surprise part!

]]> By: Miriam http://infertilityisthenewblack.com/we%e2%80%99re-glad-you%e2%80%99re-not-but-we%e2%80%99re-still-here/comment-page-1/#comment-100 Miriam Fri, 11 Dec 2009 15:43:02 +0000 http://infertilityisthenewblack.com/?p=156#comment-100 What a great post. I now have 3 separate lists on my Google reader: IF, Preggers, and Has Kids. I was tired of getting assaulted by PG announcements and pics of babies and birth stories. While I'm very happy for the folks that I follow who are no longer infertile, it's still painful to read. I don't know if I agree with shutting down IF blogs once we graduate to F - I still think they're a valuable tool to have out there on the web. Perhaps starting a new one? Or making it clear to readers that the blog has transitioned to a new focus? Either way, there needs to be sensitivity to those readers who are still IF and dealing with it, esp from IF bloggers who graduate successfully. What a great post. I now have 3 separate lists on my Google reader: IF, Preggers, and Has Kids. I was tired of getting assaulted by PG announcements and pics of babies and birth stories. While I’m very happy for the folks that I follow who are no longer infertile, it’s still painful to read. I don’t know if I agree with shutting down IF blogs once we graduate to F – I still think they’re a valuable tool to have out there on the web. Perhaps starting a new one? Or making it clear to readers that the blog has transitioned to a new focus? Either way, there needs to be sensitivity to those readers who are still IF and dealing with it, esp from IF bloggers who graduate successfully.

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