http://infertilityisthenewblack.com/the-price-of-money/#utm_source=feed&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=feed Emotional Feelings and Sensitivity Training Fri, 02 Mar 2012 17:41:03 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 http://infertilityisthenewblack.com/the-price-of-money/comment-page-1/#comment-3852 Carrie Fri, 02 Mar 2012 17:41:03 +0000 http://infertilityisthenewblack.com/?p=120#comment-3852 you write so well. i just found your blog today in March 2012 and wonder if you are still blogging? your writing has really hit a chord with me. how much of one's life is hidden, how deep and solitary the pain of infertility truly is... i so agree about the way the miracle babies are paraded loudly on the ex-infertile blogs; there should be a law against it! you would think they had a shred of compassion after being through the trials but in my experience the ex-infertiles bring the most pain. Not only have I had 3 failed ivfs, 2 failed iuis and an incompetent consultant who missed diagnosed me and so I wasnt referred for IVF until over 35, I also had an ivf protocol with little success. We then tried to adopt, got through the intrusive and ugly process with a team of incredibly poor social workers who took 3 years to get us through. We eventually went to russia in 2010, met a beautiful 9 month baby girl, came back to Ireland wher we live, and then teh Russian authorities decided not to let us adopt her due to a commetn in the social worker report. they told us this after we had paid all our fees (15k) and travelled across russia to meet her. after we had paid for paeditricians and the 8 medicals we had to go throug ourselves. and our social worker wasnt in the least bit sorry when we told her that her comments (about me suffering from stress, over and above the normal adoption applicant) had stopped us from adopting overseas. We werent allowed to adopt in ireland domestically as we are over 38, which is the rule! we now have moved to the UK to adopt. but we have to live here 2 years before we can apply and there is a chance we will be rejected again.....but we have to live in hope. I dont believe that things work out for the best. the world is random and cruel. Infertility is one of lifes deepest cruelties and only those who experience true long term infertility can grasp it. And dont get me started on the ex-infertiles; the worst offenders! you write so well.
i just found your blog today in March 2012 and wonder if you are still blogging? your writing has really hit a chord with me. how much of one’s life is hidden, how deep and solitary the pain of infertility truly is…
i so agree about the way the miracle babies are paraded loudly on the ex-infertile blogs; there should be a law against it! you would think they had a shred of compassion after being through the trials but in my experience the ex-infertiles bring the most pain.
Not only have I had 3 failed ivfs, 2 failed iuis and an incompetent consultant who missed diagnosed me and so I wasnt referred for IVF until over 35, I also had an ivf protocol with little success. We then tried to adopt, got through the intrusive and ugly process with a team of incredibly poor social workers who took 3 years to get us through. We eventually went to russia in 2010, met a beautiful 9 month baby girl, came back to Ireland wher we live, and then teh Russian authorities decided not to let us adopt her due to a commetn in the social worker report. they told us this after we had paid all our fees (15k) and travelled across russia to meet her. after we had paid for paeditricians and the 8 medicals we had to go throug ourselves. and our social worker wasnt in the least bit sorry when we told her that her comments (about me suffering from stress, over and above the normal adoption applicant) had stopped us from adopting overseas. We werent allowed to adopt in ireland domestically as we are over 38, which is the rule! we now have moved to the UK to adopt. but we have to live here 2 years before we can apply and there is a chance we will be rejected again…..but we have to live in hope. I dont believe that things work out for the best. the world is random and cruel. Infertility is one of lifes deepest cruelties and only those who experience true long term infertility can grasp it. And dont get me started on the ex-infertiles; the worst offenders!

]]> http://infertilityisthenewblack.com/the-price-of-money/comment-page-1/#comment-86 Coming Out of the Infertility Closet | Infertility Is The New Black Mon, 16 Nov 2009 20:01:51 +0000 http://infertilityisthenewblack.com/?p=120#comment-86 [...] is physically and emotionally draining. (I’m not even going near the financial implications, see The Price of Money below.) It is a lot to keep from the people you love and share your life with, isn’t [...] [...] is physically and emotionally draining. (I’m not even going near the financial implications, see The Price of Money below.) It is a lot to keep from the people you love and share your life with, isn’t [...]

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