A pretty typical question couples (or individuals) ask themselves. After being diagnosed with Infertility – you can’t help but feel broken at times. Doctors tell you have this issue, you have that issue, it might be this, it might be that and so on – ahhh! – too much to process.

If you are like us, in addition to feeling broken, you may feel guilt. Although you know that you should not feel broken and guilty because your diagnosis is a physical problem and doesn’t have anything to do with you as a person….it is still a REAL feeling that waxes and wanes.

This guilt sometimes can interfere with your marriage. As a couple, we know that we are in this together, but we can’t help feel that the other would not have to deal with this annoyance if we weren’t married to each other. These feelings can even get to the point where one person actually verbalizes these thoughts by asking the other to leave for greener pastures.

All we can do is try to stay strong and support each other without question. We might not be broken in the true sense of the word, but our hearts surely are…

Not really a term you want to hear when being diagnosed with Infertility, nor any other medical problem for that matter. What does it mean, though, to us the praying, hopeful couple?

Well, in essence, it means that the doctor or fertility specialist does not have a specific reason or answer to your problem of non-conception. Reasons for infertility are endless and most can be discovered through the medical process with relative ease. But for those of us who end up in the “unexplained” category, it makes the journey and decision making process that much harder and most of the time, longer.

If a couple received a definitive answer to their fertility woes – it would be much easier to develop a path to success. For example, if the couple was told that one partner was incapable of reproduction, then the path to donor eggs/sperm or the path towards adoption can occur much faster.

With “unexplained” infertility, couples spend years going through the “cookie cutter” fertility process beginning with prescriptions and IUI rounds, and moving towards IVF. Because there is a lack of “scientific method” that goes into the IVF process, there is no real way to prove why an IVF cycle failed. Doctors usually try to adjust protocols and throw the kitchen sink at the next attempt because IVF is expensive or insurance may only cover a certain number of tries. You don’t know if the tweaks to the protocols actually helped or hurt your chances.

The process is exhausting mentally and physically. You are screaming for answers and your specialist is grasping for explanations and guessing between multiple potential infertility issues. This makes it extremely hard to determine next steps in your overall goal of having a baby. “Unexplained” leads to the frustration of lost time.

Welcome to our blog. Our catchy title is not meant to say that Infertility is by any means “hip”, but rather to show that it is extremely relevant and common in today’s world.

As we begin to work on our mission statement for our “about” page, we will start to describe why we created this blog. We are a happily married couple of 7+ years and have been going through the trials of Infertility treatments for the last 3+ years. We have been unsuccessful and wanted to create a platform to share emotions of our journey as well as give others a place to share their experiences.

We see this blog evolving as dual purpose. First, it will be a place to display our actual range of emotions, as we have ok days, bad days and even worse days. It was suggested that this could be therapeutic in a way. Second, there is much to be said regarding friends and relatives who do not understand the struggle that we are going through. This will be a type of “Sensitivity Training” for them. Even though our friends and family try to be supportive, they just don’t get it and tend to be non-helpful with their advice and commentary.

We don’t have a happy-ending to our story yet and are trying to find peace along the way. This blog will not highlight happy endings. Stories that end with a child can be found elsewhere. The same goes for support. It should be understood that we are rooting for all couples going through the Infertility process and wishing them much success – “baby dust” and “sticky thoughts”. However if you want to find those type of comments, there are plenty of other forums out there for that purpose. This site will just be an outlet for the real-time emotional effects of not having your own biological child and the feelings associated with failed treatments.

As we begin to post more articles and stories, the blog will start to take shape in these directions. Please bare with us and feel free to comment on anything and everything. Thanks and there will be more to come soon…..